I’m just going through this blog smashing my head against the desk but I’ll be damned if I let this slip through the cracks.
Victim shaming is BULLSHIT.
If you think that a woman dresses provocatively because she WANTS someone to have sex with her against her will, then stop. If you think that a woman associates with men because she WANTS them to rape her, then stop. If you think woman need to be chaperoned everywhere because they cannot be safe otherwise, THEN STOP.
A woman should NOT have to avoid men, avoid wearing clothing they want to wear because ‘it might cause men to lustfully attack them’ and a woman DEFINITELY should not need a male with her at all times for her safety. A woman should not have to take so many precautions to avoid sexual assault, whereas men are simply told “Don’t rape.” (Not dismissing the fact that men can be raped too! But this rant is mostly on victim shaming women.)
Not only does victim shaming like this make rapists feel less at fault for their actions because “they had it coming”, it makes women more susceptible to feel like yes, it WAS their fault that someone forcefully came upon them.
And if you truly feel like men cannot help themselves to a woman dressed in ‘immodest’ attire, then fuck you. I’m not even going to be nice about this. Saying that also implies that men have no self control to whether or not they harm someone sexually.
A woman should not have to monitor how she lives to avoid rape. She should be able to feel safe hanging out with guys, in whatever the hell she wants, without a chaperone, she should not have to make every decision based on whether or not something will get her raped and she should NOT HAVE TO WORRY THAT SHE WILL BE RAPED BECAUSE OF HER CHOICES IN CLOTHING AND PEOPLE SHE ASSOCIATES WITH.